Introduction

This is for everyone who isn’t head over heels in love with their lives and are ready to change that.

And the reason why this is so important is because there’s so many woman that come in my world and be like, I’m struggling with this, I don’t have good boundaries, the guys that come into my life are shit, my husband annoys me, my dogs are pissing me off, my children are exhausting, there’s so much going on, right?

Life feels busy, and in that busyness, and all these problems -self-inflicted or not- what’s happening is there’s a block for you to feel love. I don’t mean the love that you receive from your partner, I mean the unwavering love you have for yourself and your life, because that’s where it all starts.

If a woman doesn’t have an unwavering love for herself, it is damn near impossible to be in a feminine energy, to have self-trust, boundaries and know your self-worth.

So I want to give you guys the number one thing today, if there’s anything that you do on your entire journey back to loving yourself, your life, and who you are, and your healing journey, wherever you may be in that journey, it is gonna be this one thing.

And I wanted to let you guys know that I know exactly how you guys feel. Once upon a time, there was a little Belgian girl with blue eyes, blonde hair and mediocre dreams, didn’t really believe in herself, … Hi, it’s me!

I didn’t hate my life, but I didn’t love it either. It was quite literally okay, and I was quite literally just fine.

There was a lot of busyness going on and there was a lot of crap, right? And in all of that crap going on, and all the things, that were all moving parts of my life, I realized something.

That was what I was focusing on. I was so focused on the things that were going wrong, the places where I was in lack, and very rarely the places that I actually loved my life and actually felt love, nourishment and safety.

Because even if you’re not head over heels in love with your life, there are multiple areas of your life where you feel love, safety and an unwavering self-trust.

But the one thing, because that’s not even it, that I find helps women more than anything, is their ability to detach from the outcome of which they think they need to do, be, feel, and act.

Let me say that again. It’s in a woman’s ability to detach from how she believes she should do, feel and act.

Every single one of your ailments, every one of the issues and problems that you have in your life – self-inflicted or not – are all going to be under the bases of the way you wish something was, but isn’t.

The definition of suffering is the hyper-attachment to the outcome of something being other than how you wish it is. Read that again, because that’s ginormous. That’s all suffering is. So when you start to let go of the attachment of how you should be, act, feel, do and show up in this world as, that’s when magic happens. Because, guess what, you’re releasing the resistance of societal expectations and the second the resistance disappears, guess what, energy can flow. 

How happy I was heavily depended on my environment – what was happening around me and how I was feeling.

I was hyper attached to the outcome of how I thought I should be, act, feel, and who I needed to show up in the world as.

But here’s the kicker: my feelings were completely dependent on everything outside of myself.

I tried it all; meditation, visualization, journaling, therapy, coaching, … all the things.

And while I’m not saying none of that works, there was one thing I was truly missing: the decision to detach from the outcomes that were causing resistance in my feminine flow.

Loving your life is a choice. It’s not something you just wake up feeling naturally at first – it’s a daily choice. A decision to not allow past bullshit or external circumstances you can’t control to affect your happiness.

Remember, the magic starts with a decision. A decision to make small, intentional choices every day to love your love more deeply.

Make the choice. You’re the only one who can.