These are tree specific actions to start loving your life now:

Create a Joy & Resistance list

Write down 5 simple, specific things that genuinely bring you joy -things you often overlook. Maybe it’s a morning coffee ritual in total silence, singing out loud to your favorite song, or walking on grass barefoot. Commit to do at least one of these every single day, no matter what.

Then write a list of your biggest problems. Ask yourself when you’re causing more tension then need be by asking yourself what outcome you’re hyper attached to.

Schedule Non-Negotiable Me-Time

Choose one hour each week that’s entirely yours. No work, no obligation, no phone. Use it to do whatever feels good in the moment –without planning or pressure. This helps you learn to prioritize your joy and desires regularly.

Start a Yes & No Journal

Every night, write down something you said ‘yes’ to that felt good, and one thing you said ‘no’ to that protected your peace.

Presence over productivity

Instead of rushing, notice small details (the light through a window, the smell of your coffee, the sound of footsteps on the street).

Gratitude practice

Every day, name 3 small things you enjoyed. Over time, you train your brain to look for beauty automatically.

Reframe the ordinary

Doing laundry? Imagine it as a ritual of care. Walking to the store? Pretend you’re the main character in a film.

Curate your environment

Fresh flowers, soft lighting, music that makes you feel something.

Dress with intention

Even if no one will see you, wear clothes that make you feel like your favorite self.

Indulge your senses

Cook slowly, sip tea from a cup you love, light a candle just because.

Keep a journal

Write about your day as though it were part of a novel. This helps you see the poetry in ordinary events.

Create little rituals

A morning routine that feels sacred, or an evening walk that frames your day.

Photograph your world

Not for social media necessarily, but to notice what is worth remembering.

Say yes to small adventures

Try a new café, take a different walking route, learn a random skill.

Connect with others

Meaningful conversations—even brief ones with strangers—add texture to your story.

Seek beauty in nature

Clouds, trees, water—nature has a way of making you feel part of something grand.

This practice helps you become aware of how you’re aligning your daily choices with your own happiness.